How to Forgive from the Heart
Just about everyone agrees that we should forgive. But how can one truly forgive? And how can one forgive from the heart?
That was the topic of my recent sermon, « Forgiveness. » Watch or listen below, scroll down for the sermon notes. God bless!
HOW TO FORGIVE
Just about everyone agrees that we should forgive — but how can we do that?
Consequences of Unforgiveness:
Breakdown in relationships
Forgiveness is NOT being a “door-mat”
Giving a second chance
Giving harmful people access to your heart, family, etc.
Keeping someone’s secret
Letting the guilty walk free
Giving harmful people permission to harm people
Minimizing your pain or their sin
Forgiveness is not being an “emotional dictator”
Forcing someone to forgive
Confronting someone with your pain
Demanding people enable your sin, and tolerate your presence
What is Forgiveness?
Forgiveness is internal
It takes only one person
Forgiveness does not negate boundaries, justice, and “doing the right thing”: in fact, it enables us to do just that
Forgiveness is the internal, personal decision to release my right to “make you pay.”
How Can I Forgive?
List the person, and the action
List a minimum of three pain words
Pray, “I choose to forgive X for doing Y, causing me to feel Y…”
Pray, “I am willing to pay for the emotional pain and consequences that X has caused me…”
Pray, “Lord, please take back the ground I gave to the enemy through bitterness, and I yield that ground to your control”
Where Can I Forgive?
Caring for the Heart/Coeur à coeur Ministries
With a pastor/mentor/friend
Alone, in a quiet time with Jesus
Silently, throughout the day